Reminder No. 1: You are Strong
I am back after a hiatus of being busy, per usual. I have been struggling with pretty bad anxiety lately which has made my brain pretty foggy and because of that, I have struggled with creativity. However, I recently came up with a series for my blog based on something I used to do for myself.
Whenever I would have a great day, I would write a positive reminder to myself based on how I was feeling. So for example, if I was feeling mentally strong that day, I would write a reminder titled something like, "Read this if you're feeling weak," and I would save it in my Google Drive for another day. I also had reminders about general things, like saving money and balancing life.
I have a few of these and whenever I come across them they seem to help me, so I thought maybe they could help someone else too.
This first post is about strength, but they'll all be different. I am going to be blunt and honest about things I am going through in these posts in hopes that I can help one person feel more motivated, less alone, etc. I am also going to give a little piece of advice of something that has helped me in each Reminder. So, let's get into it:
Reminder No. 1: You are strong.
This past month has been a rollercoaster for me emotionally. I have been angry and upset and have had a really difficult time thinking clearly about certain things. To be honest, I have felt pretty weak. If you have felt this way recently or ever, know that it is ok to feel like life sucks sometimes, because it sure does feel like it at least every once in a while.
Since I have been feeling this way, it has been hard to find motivation to do things. It's hard to look forward to things when you don't feel mentally strong. There are days that I want to do nothing but lay in bed all day or just not leave my apartment, but even when you feel like this, it is important to do something that gets you interacting with other human beings and breathing fresh air.
I consider myself a strong person, but the things I have been handed in life can make me feel the complete opposite sometimes. I'm sure if you are reading this, you've felt this way at some point too, especially if you are dealing with a lot of different things at once (school, work, mental health, relationships, etc.)
LG's little piece of advice
One of my best pieces of advice (that might sound a little cheesy at first) is to write down or verbally tell yourself one positive thing about yourself a day. It does not have to be some extravagant personal thing, but could be as simple as "I am a good friend."
Allowing yourself a minute to reflect on something positive on those not-so-great days can help you ease up on the pressure that you are probably putting on yourself. I try to do this at the end of the day before I go to bed, the time when my mind is racing the most, to help me think more positive thoughts before I go to sleep.
To the person reading this:
If you are feeling weak right now, whether it has been for a minute, day, months or longer, know that you are not alone. I am not going to make a promise of when you will feel better, but know that as a human being, you have a strength somewhere inside you that I believe in.
Life is hard. Balance is hard. But I encourage you to take time to self-reflect and think about the things that make you feel a little stronger. It could be as simple as making your bed every morning as soon as you wake up and getting a sense of accomplishment. Whatever those things are for you, take the few minutes a day to do them. You deserve to have that time and you deserve to feel strong.
If you find that a relationship with a family member, friend or significant other is making you feel weak or tearing you down in any way, you have the right to step back from it. It is not you responsibility to make someone care about you or value you. You are worthy of strength and love in all of your relationships.
Lastly, know that this is temporary. If you have been dealing with feelings like this for any period of time, I urge you to find and surround yourself with people who lift you up and make you feel strong in every way. The feeling of being weak is not who you are, it is just part of the road you are on. But I promise you are not alone.